Sorry to hear you lost someone close to you. I’ve prayed that Jesus Christ provides comfort to you and others involved. Do what you need to do and we’ll look at the site whenever it’s back up. No rush.

Edit: Forgot to add about the site crashing on heavy traffic. You might want to consider a CDN. Cloudflare is No 1 with a free option. StackPath was great but just shut down their CDN. I’m trying BunnyCDN now since it’s pennies per GB.