This behavior is probably pretty normal for anyone with a job, family and kids. I wouldn't associate it with 'revenge' though.

For me 2 things help with the sleep deprivation, power naps and going to bed super early once in a while.

Power naps started working for me nicely once I removed the stressful requirement of actually having to sleep. I just set my phone timer for 20 minutes and allow my mind to float away. Just hitting sleep for a few minutes this way is super helpful and refreshing. And 20 mins you can easily sneak in even into a work day, or when coming home from work.

The going to bed super early is just me crashing once in a while. Sleep deprivation accumulates and for the sake of my health I just let my body crash at 7pm. Happens maybe once a month.