There are 3 distinct positions one can take in this situation that all get wrapped up together and cause people to talk past each other.

You can support Israel.

You can support Palestine.

You can support Hamas.

Not wanting Palestinians to die by the hands of Israelis is conflated with Pro-Hamas by Israel supporters.

I categorically don't support Hamas while also being incredibly skeptical of Israel's current actions but I'm also familiar with the various bad faith efforts at peace from both Israel and Palestinians that have bolstered Hamas.

The people that leave a bad taste in my mouth are the ones all in for any if those three groups that fail to see their shortcomings. Luckily I don't think there are that many of those but I do think that the Hamas/Palestine side of that is primarily the young left and the Israel side is primarily older but still, both are a vocal minority.