Life may not be "special", but we (our lineage) has gone through a few demonstrably evolutionarily rare events to get to the point we are.
That said, the entire universe as is appears to be in incredibly rare event, moreso than mere evolution.
We have no idea how rare the universe is because we can't compare it to anything. We can compare terrestrial species to all of the other terrestrial species we know of. This shows that some evolutionary trajectories and forms appear to be more or less frequent outcomes.
Good luck floating that past your typical theoretical astrophysicist, there are several quite different approaches to taking a stab at that one - all fall into can't be resolved either way basket though, I see your point.
fnordpiglet mentions the rare earth notion, I first came across that in the mid 70's reading an Asimov non fiction essay collection The Tragedy of the Moon which raised the importance(??) of having a moon to create tides to create intertidal zones to nudge life from water to land.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Tragedy_of_the_Moon
There's a long chain of chance that lies behind ourselves arriving where we are ... the argument can still be made (as it was by Douglas Adams) that "The universe is big. Really Big."
The latest JWT images convey just a smidgeon of how big with high res images of tiny arc areas of the night sky packed with tiny lights that are each galaxies the size of the milky way and more.
That's a lot of rolls of the dice out there.
Also, possible doesn’t mean plausible. Objects can teleport to the moon through quantum principles it’s just so unlikely it’s never actually happens in reality. Life may be such a vastly implausible thing that our existence is a miracle so improbable it beggars the imagination.