But then I happened to do some audio signal analysis, and when I saw a magnitude spectrum of a waveform, it was instantly obvious what's going on (and understanding the phase part after this was no problem). Such practical examples seem to be almost banned from university math, I'm guessing to make sure everything is very abstract and rigorous (e.g. you have to work with finite length and discretized signals where the maths don't strictly apply). And after getting this intuition the formal math started to make sense too.
But when one begins to teach, it becomes quite easy to see why things are like this. All of these things are so obvious to the teacher that it's hard to understand how one thinks before these are obvious and the standard notation/vocabulary is typically a good way to work with these, but only after understanding the stuff.
What I try to do is to probe out something that the student already knows, which may be from a totally different field, and find a simple example in the new topic so I can say that "this is exactly the same thing, but with this different notation/abstraction". This very often causes the things to "click" for them.
This is of course very hard to do with a textbook or a mass lecture. And probably the main thing why we need humans to do teaching instead of just giving out material.