On one hand? Yes.
On the other - real estate/physical locations are the one thing that fundamentally is limited and where distance and control really, really matter for a specific outcome or circumstance to exist.
Rural Idaho, little/no competition, no need for heavy rules to avoid it turning into complete anarchy.
Manhattan? Completely different story.
And there is only one manhattan (and only one of any given spot in rural Idaho, too, but a lot of any given spots).
The way these things tend to work in the cities is heavy rules, and then you have to apply for exceptions. Often, the rules are ‘no, you can’t build without an exception’.
So then, it’s all about making a good case you need an exception. The ‘benefits to the community’ is the ‘bribe’ as to why your good case should get the exception.
It’s hard to see what the alternative is, frankly, when you look at the on the ground reality - there is rarely a rule anyone could write that wouldn’t cause massive problems if applied naively in these dense environments.
And if the people living somewhere want to reduce/avoid certain types of problems, what else are they going to do?
And someone can say ‘fuck ‘em, they don’t get to say no’ - but most people saying that will very much change their tune when they’re on the other end of the bargain.