I'm sorry but I disagree. Here's the thing, everything you're saying is true in the context of a big city. However, you come out to the country and none of what you're saying holds true. I've lived in Chicago and I've lived in Iowa for years each. I had lots of friends in both places. I talk to exactly one person from Chicago still, but I regularly keep in touch with all of my Iowan friends even after they've moved.