> I didn't think in 2023 I would read that programmers are shocked that relaxed atomics can be reordered.

At my current and prior jobs, I've had to do the "C++ cleanup" job while porting some x86_64 code to ARM. The TSO model from x86 is just something I think a lot of people have assumed and haven't been hurt by (again because it's TSO). Most of the work I had to do is basically using all the SA and sanitizers I could, staring hard at the code to convince myself there wasn't some secret data dependency on some relaxed atomic.

"It's just a simple flag, so I'll use a relaxed atomic, nbd", meanwhile the same person is assuming another structure they've "published" (e.g. to a shared queue) will be visible is alarming.