i have been searching for this for literally years, all the time maintaining an app as a google sheets script, because much as i would prefer something self-hosted and customisable, that collaborative grid view is the ideal user interface from my users' point of view. so far nothing has fit the bill - basetool (https://github.com/basetool-io/basetool) might have but it's discontinued and underdocumented, and i'm not really a web developer so i don't feel up to the challenge of getting it running and integrated into an app.
grist actually came really close from a ui perspective, but it was too focused on being a spreadsheet and doing computation in the frontend. i filed an issue that explains my use case in more detail: https://github.com/gristlabs/grist-core/issues/422