I totally agree - but its sad the answer is invariably "her" with the woman having to stop their career to raise children and the reason is nearly always the husband earns more

My wife has had to stop her career to home educate my autistic daughter as the education system failed her. The key decision on who does the home education was economic, although she is doing a much better job than i ever would

When I look at the facebook groups for others in the same situation its always the woman stopping her career