> I just wish Rust learning resources would be more upfront about this.

While beginner resources don't dwell too much upon cyclic references, they don't consider unsafe blocks as unusual. All the material I've seen say that there are certain domains where Rust's compile-time safety model simply won't work. What Rust allows you to do instead, is to limit the scope of unsafe blocks. However, the beginner material often won't give you too much details on how to analyze and decide on these compromises.

Anyway, compile-time safety checks (using borrow checker) and manual safety checks (using unsafe) aren't the only way to deal with safety. Cyclic references can be dealt with runtime safety checks too - like Rc and Weak.