In Germany, it is intended to be hard to change your name; in the USA, the situation is different. Also in Germany, if you change your name voluntarily (without having a very good reason (CLARIFICATION: of course marriage is a good reason)), this is considered to be a strong sign that you deeply hate your parents (and did the name change because of that). Indeed, the people who I know who changed their first name to their middle name exactly did it because if this.
This is in fact one of the iconic places where lack of diversity in software teams cause problems. Men may have a blind spot around name changes that women don’t, because of their lived experience.
Huh? I’m German and I have never heard of this.
I am also German. The only people (in Germany) who I know and did a (forename) name change did this because they hated their parents, since changing the name is an open signal that you deeply hate what the parents did to you your whole life (including giving you your old name).
But they're the closest thing we have that would be acceptable to most people. Better suggestion?