Take this for what it's worth, but a recruiter that I know has told me that a lot of companies in California are now reaching out to recruiters to hire out of state for the obvious reason - lesser pay. Something to ponder. If you're really desperate maybe look into other regions.
Yes, I am seeing this as well. A lot of tech job openings are even explicitly excluding people from SF (but not less expensive parts of California)
Would you take an in-person job that's not in a big city?