American Employees Reinvent the Sick Day
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> For one, more workers are using up sick time often for reasons such as mental health.
It's sad that we're still so far from viewing mental health as any where near as "real" as other physical health issues (because after all, ultimately mental health is physical). People are visibly under greater mental stress than anytime I can recall in my working career, it's a good thing if more people are taking time to care for this.
Imagine if the article had subtly criticized people for taking more time off to address cardio health or kidney health, it would sound completely ridiculous.
I also make all team meetings optional. If you're not feeling it, don't show up. This has a two fold effect of keeping people well rested/motivated and not having negative energy in meetings from people who'd rather not be there.
This has resulted in a very high performing team. Well rested, trusted, not burnt out. Comfort leads to creativity.
It’s currently popular to post about mental health issues on social media, like TikTok and Instagram. People dramatize their issues for views and likes and attention. So, you have a lot of people “self-diagnosing” mental health issues that aren’t actually clinical disorders.
This leads to people not perceiving mental health as a serious issue. Instead, people are abusing the “mental health” status to get what they want: leniency, time off, an easier workload, what have you.
This distracts from people who actually have clinically-diagnosed mental health issues. It weakens their arguments when an actually diagnosed person needs assistance, like a day off.
So the immediate fix for this is to have a physicians note or similar for every mental health day that you need. The hope is that doctors (an impartial third party authority) would sufficiently diagnose someone’s mental health. They can separate between the actually afflicted and the “I just want an excuse / easy life” crowd.
Although if you chat with MD’s about this topic, diagnosing mental health is hard so that isn’t a silver bullet either.
The other thing that society can do: stop romanticizing mental health. Stop posting about it on social media for likes and attention. Get validation and attention from some other aspect of your life, like playing an instrument or doing something well.
Unfortunately I have to agree with the parent, it does seem to be true.
In my own experience: my niece never mentioned depression until she saw videos about it on TikTok. Then she was always moody, and constantly stating "I'm depressed, but therapy is expensive. Can you give me money? Don't you feel bad for me?"
I see people walking around with T-shirts advertising they suffer from depression.
I don't know if social media and exposure has brought the correct view of mental illness to light.
What are they going to give people a quick blood test for depression? “This person has depression today, they can stay home.” Neither you nor the parent understand what the term “mental health” means. You don’t catch stress or anxiety or schizophrenia like you catch a cold. It can only ever be self-reported because that’s what it is, by definition. If there were an underlying physical condition it would be reclassified as “health” rather than “mental health” as we do for autism, stroke victims, those with brain injuries, basically any mental health problem that can be reliably diagnosed by an MD ceases to be “mental health”
I see this too. I know people with real mental health issues that cripple them and I know people who like to use “mental health day” as a fad excuse du jour to just take a day off because “they don’t feel like working today”. The people I know with the real, crippling mental health issues generally don’t get over it in an afternoon of watching movies and being lazy—it’s usually days and weeks of agony.
So in my mind if people are using mental health just as an excuse to take a day off they are definitely doing damage to those folks who actually suffer from crippling mental illness by minimizing what it really is…because if Sally can sort out her mental issues by binge watching a show on Netflix in an afternoon, why can’t Frank get over his inability to get out of bed for three days by doing the same thing?
The article quotes a few people. One of the quotes is, "The accounting team is not happy with me providing this time off, because it’s a liability for the company". Another quote is equating not taking sick days to having a "work ethic".
Read the article. Companies just want to company.
How about something simple, like providing a fixed number of personal days off or making them unpaid leave instead of trying to administer an insurance system susceptible to exploitation? As a contractor I find the idea that someone should pay for my days off - for whatever the reason - to be more than a little bizarre.
I can guarantee you that, absent paid time off, a lot of people will come into the office every day even if it means foregoing vacation and even if they're coughing their lungs out.
Obviously if you're in business for yourself, you make your own decisions about work hours and work days. But a system where there are vacation and/or sick days, especially for salaried employees, has been the norm in many places for a very long time and is hardly bizarre.
I've been in my job almost 25 years. I listened to my parents and older workers tell me not to use sick time because "you never know when you'll need it."
I've worked steadily 50+ hours a week for all that time. Most of that time I worked weekends. Yet, upon recent inspection, have used only 20 sick days over that two and a half decades. That includes a stint of 5 years where I used not one sick day.
I am burnt out, and because of my previous attitude, still find it hard to take a sick day. Every morning I wake up regretting it, I am constantly angry and everything - especially the job. I have no social life because I never took time off.
I wouldn't want anyone else to end up like this, and always relate my story. There are a hell of a lot of people out there that are probably the same.
Protect your physical and mental health folks. Use your sick time. Before you know it, one or the other is going to fail on you if you don't look out for yourself.
However, be careful, be smart. The article shows father and son at a ball game, implied on a sick day. People at my workplace abused this, and we now have managers checking at home to make sure the employee is truly sick and home.
The article mentions automakers losing a lot of money due to sick employees, if they find abuse, they could do the same. As would other employers.
I just used it as an example because it was in the article. What did he tell his employer? My job requires one to state the illness, although I understand that's not common, so this may be irrelevant.
If the guy does it every few months, no harm, no foul.
If he's taking every other weekend off and posting pics on his facebook page with a big smile, then maybe his employer may not be so happy.
I think the takeaway would be don't give your employer proof that could be interpreted as you were not straightforward.
My desire to maliciously comply with your company's policy would have me stating things like, "I have this red, oozing puss on my ass cheeks and would like a day off," or, "My balls are really itchy and red and it's spread to my fingers."
There are states where paid sick leave is mandated, and the state law explicitly lets workers take sick leave for _ANY_ reason related to health.
Feeling too tired to work? Fine to take a day off.
Stressed out because you had to take your pet to the vet? Take a day off.
> My job requires one to state the illness
Aside from being a huge red flag, what's stopping you from just putting in "mental health" and not being very specific? Does anyone even care/check? Surely HR can't be that petty?
There's still a stigma attached to mental health problems. Many, perhaps most, people can't seem to differentiate between "I'm feeling really depressed" and "I'm psychotic and want to kill a bunch of people". It's very sad that this is the case, but that's how it is.
1 in 6 Americans takes antidepressants, so chances are you know quite a few people who are taking them. However, I'll bet that the only people who've ever told you they're taking them are really close friends and family.
Why? Because this stigma exists.
(note that I'm not interested in debating whether antidepressants work, or whether taking them is a good idea... that's not the issue here)
My comment wasn't on defining what constitutes as "sick," but the parent asked what constitutes "abuse." As there is no law which defines it, yes, it unfortunately is the employer that will determine what "abuse" means.
> Aside from being a huge red flag, what's stopping you from just putting in "mental health" and not being very specific?
Requiring doctor's certification that one was ill in my (unionized) workplace. If they don't like the explanation, paid sick leave law or not, pay is refused. Challenged in court and upheld.
I refuse to think this is the only employer in the US that does it. Cases like these however have situations that lead to them. I surely don't think it's right, but do see where if someone's not showing up to work because he's "sick" and then posting photos of having a good time, and doing it often, it doesn't look good. In fact it's stuff like that which lead to such policies where I work.
A search got me this, so obviously it is done elsewhere:
https://www.businessmanagementdaily.com/10847/checking-up-on... https://www.quora.com/Can-your-employer-check-if-you-re-real...
The hell? My former manager ( and her lead ) once called me when they thought I was calling in too often ( waaaaay back when ), but most would be too lazy to actually physically visit a suspected pretender.
I personally always found the division funny. If I want to be off, I will be off. The labels make zero difference to me. They matter to the company, but to me it is tertiary consideration.
I don't care when I call out sick, you don't care when you do, obviously. But there's someone out there to whom your unexpected absence is going to make a difference in their day.
This is why it still boggles my mind that companies with antiquated RTO policies aren't embracing remote when they can. There are many days I'm not feeling great enough to get dressed up and drive a couple of hours into an office, but I can get up, put on my shorts and a t-shirt, and sit down in my home office and work.
The guy's story about never taking a sick day and falling asleep at his computer while on meds, only to eventually get fired, would be a huge wakeup call. It's just not worth it to give that much of yourself to a job.
I’d love to see some comparable stats from other countries as well.
That's just people with access to paid time off, too. The Bureau of Labor Statistics says that in the US hourly workers are the majority, which means a large percentage of them simply don't get paid if they don't work, and they often can't afford to not get paid.
In a very controversial move they changed policy to pool them together in just "PTO" of two weeks. Probably a pretty common story. Lot of people were mad at losing the dedicated sick time because they would cash out their unused vacation at the end of the year.
https://www.ny.gov/new-york-paid-sick-leave/new-york-paid-si...
The only exception is for employers with 4 or fewer employees and net income less than $1 million (but they must still provide 40 hours of unpaid sick leave).
You do not need be sick, you can just take a break when you feel like it, so sick day really should be called "wellness day" instead.
If we rename 'sick day' to 'wellness day', I'm sure more people will take it.
People don't want to take a "sick day" if they don't feel debilitatingly sick because they might feel like they're cheating.
People don't want to take a "wellness day" because their work environment makes them feel pressured to not throw a whole work day away just because they "feel like it". I.e. they feel that one should consolidate those into longer planned-well-ahead vacations, otherwise they may feel some judgement from employers/coworkers whose work is affected by their absence.
It is of course a sign of our great cultural sickness that either of these psychological problems are even prevalent (and from my experience, they are prevalent - majority even).
Q: Where in the world are (non-emergency) dentists open at weekends?
Umm, OK. Not everywhere, apparently, hence my question.
> Why would that be a surprise?
For reference:
My dentist works a four day week (Monday-Thursday).
My local doctor's practice is open a whopping 23 hours per week - four mornings plus a handful of late afternoon sessions. Less than handy if you or your relatives are taken ill between noon on Friday and Monday morning.
Tons of hourly jobs make you work a weekend shift as well so you end up with a weekday off that you have to use for that kind of thing.
And for people who do have some flexibility about coming into an office, it seems very common in my experience that they may do a little work and maybe drag themselves to dial into a meeting that would be hard to reschedule, but generally take the day easy if they're not feeling well.
Aside from maybe one or two medical things that really did take up a full day, I haven't formally taken a sick day/PTO because I was sick in years.
so glad to know that you know the health status of everyone on the internet, and what is best for them - must be nice to be omnipotent.
We did that in spite of the fact that one of the two guiding teachers more or less started haranguing us to put pressure on that teammate to "get back to the group work", with such charming questions being asked to the non-sick teammates (ie. Me and three others) as "how many sick days do you think are acceptable" and repeated anecdotes from the guiding teacher about how "he had taken exactly one sick day in five years". (He didn't mention that he'd also been working as a freelancer for five years so "a sick day" meant absolutely nothing to him).
In our case, the team as a whole decided that as long as we could get the work done, the teammates absence wasn't too big of a deal. This didn't make the guiding teacher happy to say the least, and I could totally have seen another team break under that kinda pressure/not have the spirit to stick up for their own beliefs in that thing.
We did end up passing the project because the result was more than acceptable at least, but it's something worth mentioning in terms of how early it starts.
This is why my views changed too. I've worked so many jobs where I put in more than 8hrs/day consistently over months or years and didn't get raises (usually bc of a policy) or I didn't get some benefit because I wasn't friends with the CEO etc.
No more. If I'm not feeling up to working and it won't totally mess up my schedule, I'm calling off.
The reality is me coming in sick also costs the business. I spend 8hrs sitting at my computer running at 60% or less productivity, possibly extending it multiple days because I didn't rest vs them knowing I am sick and resting and being able to come back the next day and be back to 90-100%
From the chart: among Americans with paid leave about 33% of them took ANY sick days in 2023. In 2019 that was about 23%.
So even after a global pandemic, a WFH revolution, and an economic downturn we still have 67% of this group never ever missing work due to illness.
And we’re being called lazy!
I hope the extra sick days are people faking it so they can interview elsewhere.
Most of the examples were blue collar and it's not hard to see why there might have been more sick days the past few years.
On the other hand with more flexible working arrangements for some workers, it's also not hard to see why someone not feeling well might literally phone it in for a couple hours rather than taking a formal sick day.
Without a lot more data I'm not inclined to conclude a lot from a few numbers.
We get 3 sick days a year that roll over and get cashed out under certain circumstances and "unlimited" PTO.
The reason this is done is previously the company gave 20-30 days of paid vacation per year and those could be rolled over or paid out and now they have no such obligation.
In terms of mental health days, I worked at one place for a long time and had enough vacation days that I could use one as a mental health day. Then I changed jobs and the new place gave so few vacation days that when I thought about a long weekend to visit family I'd have to wonder whether that family member was worth spending the precious vacation day on. If the company vacation plan is sufficient then you don't need to use a sick day for a mental health day.
On the other hand, I probably earn less than you (6200 EUR/month after paying all taxes, i.e. ca. 6500 USD). But I very much prefer it stays that way.
Aren't vacations supposed to be for mental health? I think it's important and healthy to take time off, but why lump it with "sick" days? It's difficult to even pin down what qualifies as a mental health day. Some articles I read it's as general as "not being in the right headspace". I think it's categorically different than when you have an infectious disease.
If that's the goal, taking time off work seems like it would be actively counterproductive.
Put differently, mental health is health too.
Fuck this attitude. I've avoided burnout by taking short-notice leave, a day at a time. I have used it to get clothes ready for the next work day, cleanup house, take care of my dog, play video games, or pursue hobbies. It keeps my mental health at a reasonable level. Maybe not 100% but you can't really put a percent on physical health either. And it's easier to take one day to recover(going from e.g. 20% to 80%) than to need months of recovery when you do get totally burned out.
Think about it, seniority comes with more vacation time. As a "perk", it's desirable on its own. Unless work is inherently unhealthy, and it's a perk to be less unhealthy.
Assuming that two weeks a year is the norm going on other posts here, you feel it's appropriate to go say six months (evenly spacing those vacations) to work every day and the employee be at their best? What if said employee rarely gets physically ill, they should not have access to a day off here and there?
And within some reasonable amount, it's not unreasonable to take it after a really awful night of sleep or crazy 18 hour shift the day before, etc.
With white collar office work we can do remotely, we've all been lulled into taking essentially 0 sick days truly off. I've probably taken an average of 0-1 per year in my career. Most of the time any of us are sick we, at most, offer that we'll be offline a couple hours and login for the rest of the day.
Our parents generation had jobs where they accrued 5-7 days/year of sick day, and actually rolled it over like vacation days.. sometimes with no limits, allowing them to retire a year early paid, etc.
We've let this all get chipped away to the point that many of us don't even have vacation days that rollover, or if they do, must be used within Q1 and then get zeroed out on March 31st.
Never mind a fixed allotment of sick days we can feel comfortable using without suspicion.
-- edit, I know it's actually "Paid time off"
Depending on the state, I would say that it is laws that mean companies can't be grouchy when employees call in sick.
The title mocks on people personal problems. This is the kind of meritocratic speech we hear from millionaires and CEOs, "People worked harder back in the day".
> That confidence has only grown as record low unemployment persists.
They aren't even trying to hide anymore. High unemployment is necessary for capitalism, is what makes workers accept poor job conditions.
Just give everyone four to six weeks and be done with it.