I found the "ACTIVATE-to-PRECHARGE command period" in a Micron DDR3 datasheet, same value: 9 x tREFI
https://www.mouser.com/datasheet/2/671/4Gb_DDR3L-1283964.pdf
Page 78, speed bin tables.
Refresh basically is an activate/precharge sequence, so keeping a row open long is the same as denying refresh to that bank.