It's been many years since I read his memoirs but I remember feeling that he came off as a barely-sympathetic womanizer in them. He had more or less absolute control over his own portrayal of himself so I assume the truth was significantly worse.
One of the few times I'm reminded how much time I spend posting in an online text forum, and oh boy what a bubble we enjoy conversing in.
This is a false premise and an oversimplification motivated by (understandably) bitter emotions (I go into this more in another comment).
People change and perhaps I’m being harsh. I just thought the paradox was interesting.