On HN these kind of askHN topics tend to get a lot of "shooting from the hip" comments because so many people recognize the feeling, know how bad it is, and genuinely want to help by describing what worked for them previously. People who don't recognize the situation will simply not comment. So yes, most people are OK.

No, none of us are okay. The "push harder" comments are either from workaholics or younger folks with more hope for the world.

I'm 37, never figured out an exit plan from a dead-end tech career (QA & test automation), and may be facing homelessness in the near future.

No, and that's ok.