Your sense of love sounds like hell.

> you cannot love a chatbot no matter how clever

People fall in love with inanimate buildings, I'm pretty sure a chatbot is going to be much easier than that, especially as the technology gets better. (Also people are already trying to put these into bodies.)

> ...What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly...

Suffering doesn't make things more valuable, it is a horrible cost, and if you can't value things without suffering well that is your psychological problem to fix on your own.