I'd love to read the papers cited there without having to buy that book.
I wonder if what is defined as "support" is actually, meddling, undermining, and pressurzing children into fulfilling the parents needs.
I wonder if what is defined as "support" is actually, meddling, undermining, and pressurzing children into fulfilling the parents needs.
Support was defined by the wealthy parent providing financial support, whether through a stipend, gifts, or whatever. It turned out that, despite the best of intentions, such support almost inevitably wound up with destructive emotional dynamics.
Whereas others were perhaps struggling with everything so the parents gave much more support.
Everyday example: the parents of disabled people dedicate almost everything they've got to help their children, and often end up poor and with a poor quality of life themselves as a result.
See the list of "self made" billionaires who started with a small loan of a couple 100 mil from their parents for examples.
In other words, even taking kids to school in a car instead them walking (or at least on the bike, but their own feet still involved, therefore they are themselves 100% in control in going to school) is the support that is not the in the list of "support" but will be in the long run. I should mention, I do recognize the time constraints of current society.
You can get the book for $2.74:
https://www.amazon.com/Millionaire-Next-Door-Surprising-Amer...
Unless there is some other reason you don't want to buy it?