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I think a big reason for the resistance of acknowledging trauma as injury is, arguably, because culturally so many of us are injured that we behave in a clearly traumatized manner towards actions of healing, ie. rejection/denial/lashing out. If we acknowledged all forms of trauma as trauma we would have a radically different society…

After all, beating children into bruising was normal just a generation ago. In many states it’s still legal to beat your children.

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We aren't allowed to bring it up.

Abusive bosses and shit working conditions often get swept under the rug, and the result is trauma expressed to the worker's loved onrs.

Another challenge is how we as a society view non-physical violence like emotional abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, and infidelity. Punch a person in the face and it leaves obvious physical markings. Yet cheat on your spouse with their best friend, and coordinate with your spouse's family and friends to gaslight your spouse into believing they're crazy and you're much less likely to be caught. I genuinely believe the psychopaths that live among us have a vested interest in ensuring that psychological abuse is very difficult, if not impossible to prosecute. And I would much rather be punched.

No there isn’t some conspiracy to leave it unprosecuted, just that people with psychopathic tendencies are good at sniffing out the areas where the victim is unlikely to hit back

From my experience, only way to really deal with those types is to always escalate and get more eyes on the situation

> only way to really deal with those types is to always escalate and get more eyes on the situation.

Want to echo this, and say that it is in the psychopath’s best interest to make you feel like you are overreacting. Bringing more eyes on the situation is not overreacting, and if someone who has power over you is trying to convince you of that, don’t trust them.

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