e.g. Kardashian speak
Go listen to Jeremy Irons or Alan Rickman.
Thanks for posting. Made my morning.
Some people have it at full volume and speed and that's just their voice. But a lot of people (and fewer men) it's not their real voice, but an affectation. We get to have opinions on people's affectations still, right?
It is an objective fact that hating vocal fry is just a fad, and that loving it has been a fad for at least as long. You are free to dislike it, but you can't pretend it should be hated on objective grounds, and it definitely doesn't convey boredom or low effort.
[0] https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b15-P12gIf0&t=1m20s
[1] https://youtu.be/5Tek9h3a5wQ?t=43m39s - in a debate where Buckley's arguing the "dignified" position that black people shouldn't receive more rights
It's not even close to the same thing. It is what's going on in my link that's annoying as hell where Buckley and Connery might meet some technical definition of it, it is currently being put on to get across that "I'm bored with everything", which is annoying as hell when being spoken to.
Either way, it sounds like you hate a particular attitude which may be meant to convey a certain kind of ironic detachment, just like you would hate people rolling their eyes. You don't actually hate vocal fry, you just hate it when people use it to convey annoyance/boredom at you.
Unfortunately, you may end up associating vocal fry in general, which is simply a speech pattern, to that particular use of it. And this is a problem, since lots of people use vocal fry as a normal part of their speech, no different from their automatic choice of pronouncing certain vowels as short or long.
My first experience with vocal fry was a Finnish woman at my job who would use it constantly. This was several years ago and I had no idea what vocal fry was until recently. All I knew was I found the way she talked annoying. I liked her, but I did not like the way she talked. I think the most annoying thing is that it's clear it's being done on purpose for some reason. I know she can talk normally and I know I can talk like her, so why is she choosing to talk like that?
Later there was a young guy at work who would drop into vocal fry a lot. I still didn't know what it was called but I still found it very annoying.
I don't know why I don't find men like Bertrand Russell annoying.
But all I know is nobody told me to hate anything. Even people that didn't like the woman I worked with never mentioned her voice.
This is like complaining someone speaks with a certain accent. Sure, we can all change how we speak, but we speak and certain way and there is nothing wrong with it.
And while of course you can do vocal fry or not, once you've established a pattern of speech, it's very hard to change. You can try speaking a whole day only with vocal fry and see how often you'll slip back to your regular speech pattern, and just how weird it will sound to you. Or try saying "aboot" instead of "about" for a whole day, if vocal fry sounds too annoying to you to try out (which, again, you're perfectly entitled to). Either way, the discomfort you'll feel trying to change your speech is exactly the same discomfort someone like your colleague would feel.