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When I started contributing to the kernel, it was super painful and I failed multiple times. I got super harsh comments (someone called me "retard. It was fun, I laughed, eventually part of my work gor merged) but I always respected the maintainers and I was eager to better myself and improve my analytical and development skills with an open mind to be as sharp as the senior hackers. I always looked up to them and never thought in the same way the newbie did when my patches got re-written or dismissed. I just considered myself "not good enough" and I felt "I had to work harder and smarter".
Your second paragraph is the same logic that frats use to defend hazing rituals. (I went through it, so why shouldn't the new guy?)
Introducing the word 'woke' into this discussion can't possibly be a good idea.
The maintainer said this guy ‘reported’ the bug when he’d actually diagnosed and fixed it. That was a mistake which the maintainer since apologized for, and the mistake could have been avoided without any additional time and effort on the maintainer’s part simply by using a more appropriate tag.
You are really going off into outer space with this stuff about ‘market economics’ and ‘complex courting rituals’. In my experience, whenever I need to make very complex and wide-ranging arguments to justify my behavior, it usually means that I’m the asshole.