This was not our situation even 3 years ago. 3 years ago we felt financially very secure, like the future was rosy, we could save money, and look forward to children. Even now, like you, we don't have trouble getting by, but, we aren't maxing anything out. We watch what we're spending and we feel like we're just about sliding by with how crazy childcare is.
Things aren't going well at all.
Things like this are "okay":
https://www.stlouisfed.org/institute-for-economic-equity/the...
And of course, the poorest people in the country are non-workers (the elderly and children) who are probably not in debt, but have other problems. Should bring back the CTC and fix child poverty again.
Even in California it is above 80th percentile.
It doesn’t mean living in the nicest parts of the city, which have bad schools because everyone in the nice houses there sends their kids to a good private school, and the public schools are attended only by kids from the slums. It doesn’t mean a lake house (maybe a small lake fishing cabin, on a kinda-bad lake, but not a lake house. Maybe a tacky pontoon boat and a slip rental). It doesn’t mean annual long ski vacations and summering. It’s not upper middle class, in other words.
[edit] or, hitting that level more like in your mid-30s but not having kids, yes.
so it doesn’t matter if you make $200k-$300k a year in a high paid profession a mortgage these days will require a much higher % of your take home pay than someone who bought the same house at 2.5%