> The standard is not generally available. Most of us will never learn what is in it.
It also not aimed at users, but at implementors. Funny enough, they don't read the standard either ;) But more seriously: Some implementations are old and generally vendors prefer not changing the behavior of their product. When the standard comes later, the train has already departed. The most critical incompatibilities are in the elder features. The newer ones have a tendency the be more aligned with standard behavior (e.g. window functions are typically implemented just fine).
> They haven't gotten as far as working out variables or function composition either [0].
Part 2 SQL[0] is declarative and intentionally doesn't have variables. Part 4 SQL (aka "pl" SQL) does have variables. I personally consider Part 4 obsolete on systems that have sufficient modern Part 2 support.
> Tying SQL to your specific database is the best option for performance. Writing database-independent SQL is somethign of a fools errand, it is either trivial performance-insensitive enough that you should be using a code generator or complex enough to deserve DB-specific turning.
While this is certainly true for some cases there are also plenty of examples where the standard SQL is more concise and less error prone than product-specific alternatives. E.g. there COALESCE is the way to go rather than isnull, ifnull, nvl, or the like (typically limited to two arguments, sometimes strange treatment of different types).
There is a lot of *unnecessary* vendor-lock in in the field.
[0] https://modern-sql.com/standard/parts