Or it prevents the conflict from escalating. Panic and anger are connected, so if he found a way to be calm and stop the conversation, I guess this is way better than having the conflict in a mode of distress. So later, when both are calm, the issues can get resolved.
That is a secondary consideration to preventing further antagonisation, provocation, and escallation of the situation itself.
That said, there seems to be an underlying interpersonal conflict, and possibly incompatibility, here.
Possible, but I would not judge so much, from the little that was shared. Op just shared what worked for him, to prevent panic attacks. And he shared that their are downsides as well, that frustrates his wife. The rest is speculation.
Much of that depends on what is read into "drives my wife crazy", which could range from mild or even humorous response to scales far more irrational and concerning. My own experience over multiple relationships and time is that small irritations have a profound tendency to grow, and that as people age they become more of who they are, psychologically, much as other patterns of aging etch the same lines ever deeper.
It's an experientially-informed observation and caution, not a diagnosis. But it's something I'd suggest putting some consideration to for anyone noticing similar trends in their own relationships. The most glaring warning sign is a loss of respect by one, both, or all parties within a relationship, familial, social, business, or otherwise.
I don't understand why you're saying this. The technique wasn't primarily to resolve issues with spouse; it was to fight panic attacks.
> I suffered from panic attacks in my youth.
Does it now make sense?
He didn't said that. His wife his just frustrated that he can do this, I'm pretty sure he never told us he did this to annoy his wife on purpose or escaping.
He tunes out his wife
> if I so choose
Willfully
> It drives my wife crazy
And often enough that it’s an issue.
He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now!
> but if I so choose, I can completely zen out within 30 seconds and enter a state of total relaxation.
Sometime peoples just want to have own time and relaxing in their own preferred way
> In this state I may acknowledge her talking to me but have little or no memory of any conversations after.
It happened to his wife to come and start talking to him in this state, but him being able to acknowledge her without remembering the conversation causes her great frustration.
>> He hasn’t shown up again in this bizarre thread, heck he’s probably doing it right now!
Given the number of totally unjustified judgmental, misread based responses, no wonder one would shy out. Assuming that checking for answers it the sane behavior in the first place.
Good for him if he managed to get serious crippling condition under control, that's a hard feat deserving respect.
Not a fan of self-illusion claims about talking to god, that's not even how major religions are made from scratch (communication with God in my view is 2-way process, and no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back, but I get that it was probably not meant literally), but that's just an agnostic's nitpick when seeing righteous religious folks who claim weird stuff in my view.
If someone has to refrain from express themselves or taking better care of what and how they say it, it's moralists reframing words of other people, without even thinking of asking questions beforehand.
> no judaism/christian/muslim god ever talks back
Agnostic: One who believes that it is impossible to know whether there is a God.
Houston, we have a problem: faith is a fundamental aspect of consciousness and culture, not just religion.
Definitely not - it was completely clear from the start that OP had panic attacks since childhood.
TL;DR, being able to stop a panic attack or otherwise unproductive emotional response is a great skill to have. If the other party takes that personal then that's something they need to work on themselves.
The whole thing has been oversold in the same way that cannabis, etc. were. It's just a thing, utterly detached from artificial spiritual goals, and we should let people use it how they want.