Id - base impulses, bubble up automatically and subconsciously
Ego - the self, the "me". Where the story of identity comes from, what gets judged in court.
Superego - rules imposed from on high that restrict behavior
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I think "opposite impulses" can be explained as a form of self-control. Let's say I see someone I'm attracted to, but want to maintain composure and stay in a neutral stance. Left to my own devices I'll flush, and my eyes will widen, maybe I'll get clumsy. Bringing an opposite-but-aligned emotion in maintains equilibrium (anger, disgust...)
I see opposite-but-aligned impulses with my dog all the time. He knows I don't like him chasing squirrels. When he sees one, he gets activated + alert, but redirects his energy into running a few paces the other way. It's a bridge between the id (Go! Chase!) and the superego (Stay calm, don't pull!)
If you are identifying with the superego, maybe you are in a situation where you more "have to"s than "want to"s?