Here is the US military constellation satellite system: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milstar
This is again a situation where we think we're entitled to a service because we paid for it and that's how capitalism is supposed to work. Unfortunately the service fee doesn't give you power over the whims of the business or it's owner to withhold service from anyone anytime for any reason. This is what the over-long eula boils down to. A legal exemption from fulfilling the basic obligation of a capitalist exchange.
We may be funding and equipping a proxy, but we are not at war with them.
>allies shouldn't have to rely on Elon to make strategically sound decisions
What makes you think allowing AFU to use Starlink in this matter is a strategically sound decision?