I think there's a selection effect going on here: If tech and politicians agree that some policy is a good idea, then tech does it voluntarily, so no regulation is needed. The only cases where it becomes a matter of regulation are the cases where tech and politicians disagree.
For example: Remember the privacy discussion around COVID-19 exposure-tracking apps? If the exposure-tracking apps had been implemented in a naive way, they would have been incredibly invasive to privacy. But tech proactively figured out good solutions to the privacy questions, so it never became an issue. If some politician _had_ proposed regulation saying that exposure-tracking apps needed to protect privacy, then tech wouldn't have pushed back, because that's what they were already doing anyway. But because tech was already doing it, politicians didn't propose the regulation.
So, because an issue never becomes a matter of regulation unless tech pushes back on it, it ends up looks like "tech pushes back on all regulation".
Furthermore, in the cases where tech and politicians disagree, the politicians haven't always been right. For example, GDPR cookie banners are a joke. California's AB5 law is another example, as the original article mentioned.
So, I don't think "boy who cried wolf" is a fair analogy. Tech companies aren't always right, but it's not as if they're automatically opposed to all new policies; and when they do oppose politicians' proposed policies, it's sometimes for good reasons.