My editor trashed my inquiry into child sexual abuse. Now I know why.
theguardian.com
theguardian.com
There’s been arrests by teachers at Eton for the same reason. Child sexual abuse.
That’s all I know
I’m Bi myself and I don’t really follow.
For the record, I am gay guy and whilst I can identify an attractive woman, it is such a fleeting attraction I can't ever imagine mustering the activation energy to even try.
So ig because conversion therapy is harmful people make this premature conclusion that it’s permanent
I have met men who didn’t find other men attractive in any substantial way under their wives died. I have met gay men who married women because they fell in love with a certain woman, and sexual attraction resulted.
Prisons, gender segregated societies, and single gender schools are places where homosexual acts happen. It doesn’t really say much about the people themselves.
For some people, maybe most, attraction is “stable,” but whether that has something to do with their innate being or the conditions they live in, it’s hard to say.
As this point, personally, I see sexuality as less an identity or state and more of just an expression of what a person happens to desire over a certain period of time. Sexual desire isn’t all that different from hunger (the ASL signs for these are almost identical). A person could spend years of their life really into a certain set of foods, and then discover they’re into others. I used to hate mushrooms, now I love them. Hormones, environment, society… all of these impact “sexuality.”
A.k.a. "don't drop the soap!". Let's call a spade a spade. What you're referring to is male-dominance-based rape culture in its clearest form.
Well yes, that's the whole point. In practice "make do" sex is all-too-likely to translate into abuse, driven by a mixture of sheer frustration (due to lack of the sought-after kind of sex partners) and a widespread culture based on physical domination within some toxic hierarchy of perceived masculinity. This is true both in prisons and elsewhere, e.g. in more general gender-segregated conditions as are common in some underdeveloped countries.
Honestly, considering the criminal nature of rape, I thought people would be more careful throwing that word around but at this rate, if make do sex is rape, then of what use is the word rape, its become just another word for unsatisfying sex.
There is a risk, and there are benefits - I keep an open dialogue with them about these issues, and am pretty convinced the risk is minimal.
They all know each other as well and it’s a bit of a “blob” in terms of opinions. You hear from them the Telegraph or The Times type of opinions.
The author himself is an Etonian and he explains it all from quite a critical point of view.
Half the males of my cohort (siblings, cousins) were victim of one uncle. Only surfaced a decade later.
One of my siblings was later victim of a priest. Escaped a bad situation only to end up in hell.
I somehow avoided my uncle. Though later, in 4th grade (10yo) a teacher groped me. And much later that creepy too-friendly teacher in middle school was busted (preying on females).
So just from my own anecdata, I assume it much higher, every where, than people acknowledge.