> the essentials which are non-negotiable to these folks are things they themselves grew up without. They all went to public school

I recently had this conversation with a high school friend. We went to public schools, and both to college on scholarships.

She is beyond her wits about how to afford $100k/kid/year in San Francisco for their private tennis lessons and tutoring and counselling and summer camps (where the kids come home at night?! So you also need a sitter?) and god knows what else. Like, it’s terrific you’re giving them these experiences. But it’s not a necessity.