Yeah, totally agree - but I've tried a ton of different distros, and the UI inconsistencies are there as well, the fractional scaling support (or lack thereof) is much worse than on Windows, Gnome feels like it's made with CSS and JavaScript or something, and doesn't feel very "fluent" whereas KDE is clearly not touched by any professional designers. Then the apps look absolutely horrid (e.g Electron apps in Gnome), and if you use fractional scaling, everything is blurry.
I'm afraid the grass isn't greener on the other side. Yeah, you get UNIX niceties, but as far as a daily-driver desktop, I could tolerate Linux even less than Windows. Seems like I should just go back to overpaying and to Apple.