I feel like I may have it, but I am so down in a hole I just want others to do the boring shit like cooking and cleaning and billing for me and I can just work & play. I have tried for years alredy.
Is there a solution for that?
1. Clean up your place JUST enough to get some cleaning people in. (Yes, you can hire people to clean the apartment. Even if you are SITTING IN IT.)
2. Cooking: Find a meal service you like, and order. Honestly there's many good ones, we've been using Top Chef.
3. Get all your bills on auto-pay against your credit card. This will also make sure you are never late on your bills.
Money is merely potential energy. If you need to convert it into real energy... do it.
That's a neat way to put it!
That maybe sounds asymmetric and unfair, but though I'm healthy now, I've been in situations in the past where I couldn't even dress myself and she took care of me. It's a lifetime partnership. Workload doesn't need to be perfectly symmetric at all times. Besides, when I lived alone before getting married, I also paid all the bills and did all the cooking and cleaning myself, so it's not like this added work.
I don’t believe a virtual assistant can cook, nor clean, nor anything else physical.
Congratulations, you are just like every other human on the planet. We really need to stop passing off regular human traits as medical disorders.
>...I am so down in a hole...
which as another commenter said, sounds like depression.
Besides, medical diagnosis advances with time and better understanding, and some "regular human traits" turn out to be symptoms of problems we didn't previously understand. Yes, not everything is a disorder, but an argument that amounts to "in my day we just got on with it" isn't very helpful either.