Is it the word micro that causes the issue? Services are way easier and more logical when they are verticals - this is how it's largely meant to be. How many people have read the supporting books and literature that say as much? That would be a good question.

Almost everywhere you go, you see the same mistakes. Almost every one can be found in Sam Newman's 2nd edition. The conclusion I draw is that a very large number of developers ran with it without understanding the pros and cons. Services are only worth it if your organization benefits more from the pros. Many orgs don't, so it makes no sense for them to adopt it over monolithic architecture that is way easier to implement transactions with.

Designing "transactions" across services and databases is an insane endeavour. It's best if each service is split on a line that it can deal with incomplete states in other services.