My kids hate it that when my phone buzzes I don't look at it right away. I do sometimes miss important things, but not being a slave to my device is wonderful.
It has angered quite a lot of people but has been a life-changer. I tend to either batch-call the missed ones or just ignore. Of course, there are calls that are scheduled.
I even have a website dedicated to that effort. Feel free to steal the idea - https://phone.wtf
that covers most of the waking time, so if they want to argue that's a hint that they are probably not very good friends. and if they are not friends to begin with then i just tell them to stuff it. they are not my boss and i am not here to do their bidding, and i already apologized to forgetting to turn the sound on when expecting their call.
Most people understand that, and you don't want to talk to the people that don't.
Started using DnD with my first iPhone (v4). Best decision ever.
Lately I've started fully disabling notifications on apps that abuse the privilege. Works even better than DnD.
App companies need to understand that my life does not revolve around their app. It’s a tool that I don’t want to think about when not in use. If you are legitimately a good solution to my problem, I will remember when I need you. Please leave me alone otherwise.
As a bonus you can set up simple filtering so that you don't get many spam calls. For me, all calls that have an anonymous or 800 number in the caller ID get redirected to a voice prompt that asks the caller to press 9 to talk to us; all other calls just ring our phone directly. You could also use whitelists, blacklists, etc.
It's both better and cheaper than a regular landline...
That's me with the doorbell.
It’s honestly like taking a mini vacation everyday
I absolutely hated it; it didn't help that I was looking for a job, but every time I went outside, I was worried that there was an email I was missing, or that a disaster was happening, and I was unable to react to it. I also really hate basically everyone else's choice in music so when I had to hear that in stores it annoyed me. When there was an issue that involved my rebooting my server, I had to walk to my laptop and restart it instead of ssh'ing with my phone.
I am very thoroughly convinced that the unplugged lifestyle is just not for me.
I’ll be honest though, I thought at some point you were going to turn a corner and end up loving it. I guess I’m conditioned to expecting that arc.
But all that being said, it just wasn't for me. I didn't enjoy it, and even though I hate my Pixel, it's still better than being without a smartphone.
It's especially annoying when you don't look at your phone because you're just making noise for no reason. It's on the same level as playing music through your phone on the subway with no regard for those around you.
I know someone who will sit there for an hour texting people and each text that comes in rings the phone. They're literally staring at their phone and think that they need the ringer on.
That's the problem right there.
but since our phones are ad-delivery platforms, they only give you the minimum amount of flexibility to solve it. So that person is helpless trying to choose between not knowing when somebody texts or having the phone ring all the time. It's not their fault that they don't have any reasonable option.
Three actions (volume button, tap, tap) on my Android to turn my phone from ringer on to silent isn't that bad. And even though I don't have an iOS device, I'd hardly say they're built to be ad-delivery platforms. iOS isn't really in the ad business as much.
Like why do I need to be repeat notified if someone texts me 3 times quickly in a row? We ought to have some kind of an agent system that can handle these things somewhat intelligently. Apple is doing a little better in this regard, but I can't help but feel that in the OSS world we would have had a bunch of solutions to this by now. In a fragmented fashion with terrible usability, of course.
/s
However, I can tolerate it if there's reasoning. If you simply don't care and let a device make incessant irritating noises, now you're just being annoying.
Having the phone on vibrate or the ringer on all the time feels like being way more attached to your phone than having it on silent. Vibrate/ring means the phone gets your attention immediately all of the time. Silent means I decide when I give the phone attention.
Back to the annoyance, I know two people who like to think they're not attached to their device and leave it at home when they're out. But then when I'm visiting and they're out running an errand or something, their phones ding and ding and ding and there's nothing to do about it (since I'm not going to silence their phone for them...). I have lots of stories like this.
Of course, this all stems on me being baffled that someone would go days without checking their phone.
This would heavily annoy me too and is absolutely deserving of criticism. However I think that is a very different problem than having a phone that vibrates in your pocket that somebody occasionally feels because they're sitting next to you or holding your phone (my kids sometimes take pictures for example). The two might seem somewhat similar at a high-level, but the fact that one includes the phone being on the person and the other does not, that seems like a huge difference to me.
This baffles me. Like, 80% of the reason I even have a phone is to be able to communicate/look up needed information when I'm away from home. It's when I don't leave my house for a few days that I might find I missed a bunch of important messages.
Keep the phone on silent enable notifications on the watch. You get to keep an eye out for anything important while being away from the phone takes a bit of effort to reply immediately.
Im using an older garmin watch and it works perfectly, it even has a silent zone setting so I never get disturbed when I sleep. Also has a really neat feature where I can ask the watch to ping my phone if I cant find it, so when I get an important message and I need to find the phone I could quickly find it.
With my phone, all I have to do is reach into my pocket and hit to volume button to stop the vibration, I never need to break eye contact with the people I'm talking to. With a watch, they seem to always have to look down at it, even if they're dismissing the notification.
I couldn't care less how quickly someone responds to their phone. I do care about sitting somewhere and hearing someone's phone buzz and ding-a-doop constantly. Especially if they don't seem to even care about what those notifications are for.
Couldn't you take your phone but, you know, not look at it unless you need to contact someone or you're getting called?
Well, I guess you're getting a feeling of self-righteousness in front of your kids...
> Well, I guess you're getting a feeling of self-righteousness in front of your kids...
I appreciate the parenting advice and the free psychoanalysis, but what you may not know is that I have special settings for "known contacts" that ring differently. Depending on what I'm doing, I also usually check within a few minutes to see what it was, so it's not like I'm just sending all the stuff to /dev/null
btw: your tone is off.