> If your honesty means being brutal, issue is you.
"brutal honesty" does not mean physically brutal. It means not sugar coating the truth.
"brutal honesty" does not mean physically brutal. It means not sugar coating the truth.
Children are often brutally honest. Because they literally don't know the other person will be hurt.
And also, "brutal honesty" is fairly often euphemism for "exaggerated and emotionally laden claims". These things are not factually true nor honest, they are said and phrased for maximum negative impact.
That was quite a leap you made there. You can be brutally honest and have positive things to say. In fact, positive things have higher positive impact to the recipient from such a person, since they know they aren't sugar coating.
People with low social intelligence should be encouraged to be honest too. Honesty is not a virtue just for those gifted with high emotional intelligence. We all benefit if people play win-win games instead of social poker. Someone has to lose at that game.