Great point, the feeling of community has slowly faded from many parts of the country. Not all, of course. Hard to do it completely. But the loss of "third places" -- places you can exist with others in a non-vocational or business context -- is probably a big part of it.
Many places still sort of exist through stuff like farmer's markets, some clubs, libraries, swap meets, etc, but they seem less generalized for socializing.
I haven't met with my neighbors or sat down to chat with them. It does feel kind of alien and, dare I say it, rude to intrude on someone's life that way. Maybe it's not really an intrusion, and an atmosphere of fear and distrust has trained us to separate. I remember my parents meeting people and scheduling times to hang out all the time. Children from different families would mingle while the adults mingled, everyone got some dose of community.
I couldn't tell you where programming hobbyists meet up in my area. I might have to go up to Tacoma before I find any no-or-low-cost hacker groups. But, don't many communities also have common places they go routinely? I'm thinking gaming and TTRPG, TCG shops might be a good start to build a third place, despite being a business themselves.