REPL, testing, a few key high quality libraries.

In turn:

The REPL: lets you have unified development and operation. Makes it easy to record and review methodology when taking administrative action.

Testing: both made more necessary by the dynamic typing of Ruby, but more importantly, without disturbing the program under test much you can inject any input, any fault, nearly anywhere. In this way you can accrete invariants guarding against a large class of bugs encountered in production into the test suite, a form of retained learning.

The libraries: Sequel, Roda, Rodauth, part of the Jeremy Evans universe. They're very good by any standard, not even as confined to the Ruby world. The maintenance level on those is something I aspire to, but have never been able to duplicate. I did copy the 100% line (and later, branch) coverage project practice from this, though, in Citus Cloud and later projects, and it seems like a good thing, though not for the reasons people might anticipate.

An anti-requirement: control planes often have fairly lax performance needs relative to operation value. A few crucial loops, like monitoring, may indicate something with more efficient machine code. But mostly it's a fancy SSH client with quite a few tests, and some carefully designed concurrency patterns. Of the above factors, I'd say the REPL is the most dispositive for why I tolerate the performance and parallelism ramifications of Ruby, though, they all add something to my decision to use it for this.

This design theory is the fourth in a progression for me, though there are other clades by now. Heroku Postgres was the first, Citus Cloud was the second, Crunchy Bridge is the third, this is the fourth.