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Comment by asow92 | Hacker News Reader

This just isn't true, that is unless, you've been tricked into tying up your personal identity with your job?

When my wife and I had our son everything became clear and we realized that success at work was just a means to an end.

Nope, just the opposite. I don't like the concept of making work friends and keep a strict separation between the two. I was talking about the ability for the "primary caretaker" to pursue their own interests, many of which are precluded by the act of fulltime childcare

Do you have a kid?

Posting on another account because I'm rate limited. Sorry dang.

Yes, actually, a 3 year old and a 1 year old.

I guess I'm confused about what you're after here. Are you suggesting that the primary caregiver should be able to lean more on an increased amount subsidized daycare in order to pursue a personal life by working instead of staying home with the kid full-time? You still have your kids after daycare is over, so it's not like you can get out of that part of caretaking to pursue "personal interests" fully.

What about parenting in such a way that you involve your kids in your personal interests? You can definitely dig into tough book or go mountain biking with your kids with enough patients and proper equipment.

Unless one is pursuing one's own interests on company time, I don't see how being the parent with a career makes it any easier to pursue personal interests.

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