Why was it OK to be required to work at an office 4 years ago?
Any advice? You seem to have answers.
Any recommendations for places I can move to?
I'll just pack up my family of four and move to a bachelor apartment to save the commute.
I choose to have a family, and I choose to work too, I suppose.
Maybe $JOB will provide me a raise to do so.
It’s not that bad.
Buy a new place next to the new employer?
Your halfway-house "build your life around your career" mentality appealed to me in my early 20s when I was on starter salaries and was unmarried and childless. That is no longer the case and you couldn't - as I've had the pleasure of telling several interviewers - pay me to return to it.
I assume this is the thing that's called a "traffic jam" where I live?