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I used to live 5mins from work. The office catered lunch every day, but I still went home every day to eat lunch with my wife instead. Hated being at that place

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even if you like the place, hard to beat lunch with the wife

I don't mean this as cras, but even better is "lunch" with the wife.

I.e., when the two of you are finally home alone and awake, because school is in session.

I suspect for some marriages, WFH has been a real blessing.

And for other marriages, WFH has been a disaster. I know so many people who have ended up divorced after they were both WFH everyday.

Yeah, it's sad. I didn't mean to imply that WFH was a net positive for every couple.

Things like this make me thing the idea of basing society on monogamous marriage is unrealistic and doomed to failure. It only worked in the past when work prevented couples from spending much time together, and social pressures prevented them from separating.

What you're describing seems to be healthy vs unhealthy relationships (marriages). If two people are forced to be around each other and don't like each other you're going to speed up the decline. It wasn't WFH that did it, it was the fate of their relationship the entire time.

I tell recruiters I want remote because there's nothing better than seeing my wife or playing with my cat when I need to take a break. Every single recruiter understands completely. Some will push remote, others respectfully end the conversation because they know they cant beat that.

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