If you were prepared to just drop your ex-girlfriend and move on (and would rather have done so than meet the exact same person a few years and a few partners later) then this suggests not that you're against people having multiple partners ... but that you're against women having multiple sexual partners.
I am not against or for people having multiple partners. People can do whatever they want. I only care about the number of partners of women I am interested in.
Men have a preference for women who made the choice to sleep with fewer men, ruling out 80% of them. Everybody loses their minds.
Also why can't men prefer younger women in the manner that younger women tend to prefer older established men?
I talk about women because I'm a man! Women also select men in other ways. Nothing wrong about it. Men and women are different and we have different things that makes us tick.
I'm a woman who married her husband, and was extremely picky about marrying someone who wasn't promiscuous (low number of sexual partners).
I have two sons, and a daughter. As a mother you absolutely see the double standards in a couple ways. Women on tiktok, instagram, and other social media constantly shame men for being under 6 feet. I'm Korean, and I see Asian men being shamed from being under 5'7 in Asian!
Any male preferences get demonized, while female preferences get revered. It makes me worried for my kids. I don't want my daughter to grow up without a grasp on reality, and I don't want my sons being doormats.
Let's preface with the fact that I am a male.
What I have seen is the complete opposite. We males aren't "demonized" for being promiscuous, quite the opposite in fact. Females are outright called "sluts".
What you see on the internet is a drop in the bucket. Social media will default to exaggerated points of view, because they generate engagement. Kids will outgrow these fake trends at some point.
https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-...
Nowhere in the article says that women prefer "promiscuous" men, but men regarded as "attractive" by other women.
It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men.
What do women do with the men they are attracted to, generally speaking? Is there anything women could use as a informal gauge as to how attractive other women find any particular man?
> It also does not justify the fact that women are regarded more negatively when they have had multiple sexual partners, compared to men.
Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct?
Have you even read the article you yourself posted?
> Oh OK, so when 5 foot tall women should stop being creepy and preferring men taller than them right? Their preferences are unbalanced and unjustified correct?
I honestly cannot believe I would have to explain this to a seemingly functional adult.
We are talking about the imbalance in how sexual activity is regarded depending on gender.
Preferring taller or shorter partners is not "creepy", same as in choosing between blondes or brunettes. No one, outside the constant noise that is social media, is going to chastise you for choosing one or another.
Asking about "body count" before dating someone is creepy, because our society regards this as a private matter. Even worse, as I said, men get a pass on this, and women do not.
It blows my mind that anyone would be trying to compare one to another, and even tried to spin it into "promiscuous men are more preferable among women anyway". What the hell?
> our society regards this as a private matter.
Why is that? We haven't reached the objective bedrock that opinion is based on yet, we are still in feelings land.
I wonder if you yourself have started any date by saying "I have fucked this many people". After all, it seems only natural that you would lead by example. How has that worked for you so far?
Hey man, men rejecting women like that just leaves more for you right? Nobody is stopping you from having a former sex worker as a wife, it's just I and many people like me don't feel lifelong commitment with such a person is worthwhile or desirable.
Maybe this is the reason I don't get this kind of reactionaryism: I left for college ~25 years ago, and didn't go back to the small town I grew in.
And I'm glad. I could have turned into the same kind of guy who still believes that men can aspire to be players, and women should not.
For centuries, the vast majority of women didn’t have the luxury of choosing. To this day, most men still discriminate on the basis on religion, race, or politics when looking for partners.
What are these men complaining about?
> Political views are about the only "good filter", but you're just putting a huge target on your back anyway.
Yes, most women wouldn’t fuck conservatives because they despise their ideals. Perhaps the issue here is the lack of self awareness among conservatives, then.
I see it less about victims and more about empathy. You can understand the historical burden minorities and women have had and also still sympathize with modern dating scene, for men and women alike.
Your right to subjective preferences doesn't invalidate people’s subjective view of those preferences.