> This is both reductionist and sexist, drawing a sweeping conclusion that women are both incapable and unaware of the dynamic: they are just as aware as guys are, if not more.
To be fair, I'm generalizing here, so replace every instance of man or woman with "most men" or "most women". Most women do want kids. I also think most women are oblivious to the dynamic. Or at least they mostly behave as if they were oblivious to it. Maybe most people in general. Your experience may vary.
> Additionally, there is the assumption that all women want to have kids and that settling down quickly after lowering their standards leads to incompatibility.
Good point, I think it probably does the opposite. But there still has to be some feeling on the woman's part that she settled or dated down. Maybe that goes away over time if she's happy with her choice?
> The other part of this that rubbed me the wrong way (which may or may not have been intentional on your part) is that you grouped infidelity and divorce as equally undesirable
I don't know about equally, but they're both undesirable. That is a moral argument, but I imagine most people would agree.
> This is also a bit reductionist, but there is a good reason why a good chunk of men are ignored. Some of them absolutely suck at providing information to a prospective partner. Those with poor photos and bland bios will be passed over quickly because women likely have a hundred more to choose from.
Women post poor photos as often as men do. No, this is coming from the statistics that almost all the dates go to the top percentile of men. If you're in that group, it's a non-stop party. For the rest, it's crickets.
I am being reductionist here, because I'm generalizing, I have to. And I am pointing out some differences between men and women, but those are real differences, not sexism.