A particular reason that many men have difficulty with relationships is neglect - maternal neglect.
A victim of severe maternal neglect is usually also a victim of violence, either directly perpetrated by the mother or perpetrated by some other person at the mother's behest.
Irony: The victims of severe maternal neglect, just as the victims of male violence, understand the importance of kindness but have poor social function.
I think that until victim consciousness is forgotten, there's no chance of healing.
Therefore, in the fullness of time, all must find the strength to trust.
If what they claim about the loudest voices on social media is true (which it is; they are quick to anger and punitive), I am not sure why you would intentionally bait them like that.