Possible answer to the Fermi paradox: the intelligent life self destructs.

I always imagined this to involve some spectacular explosions or mass war or lasers, etc .

But in our reality it's possibly going to be the men becoming recluses and jerking off to their AI girlfriends instead of choosing to act like leaders and keeping everyone in line so we can carry on to see the spectacular version of self destruction of humanity.

C'mon guys we can do better than that!