> I find myself becoming my worst self on here, whether I want to or not, in reaction to others being their worst selves too. It's difficult to rise above the fray.

This is one of the few sites that lets you say what you want to say and not think about it further. If I see something worthy of a response that might turn heated, I add my comment and don't return to the discussion. Other sites use notifications that force you to read responses to your comments.

Cuturally, for me, losing my cool is a sign that you've been beaten. I do my best to stay in control all the time - though there are inevitably times that what I'm trying to say doesn't translate into what I type.