Ask HN: As a SWE, should you be calm or high energy?

This is something I’ve been grappling for a while as a software engineer. I used to be very high energy, but after joining a software engineering team at a large company, I felt a lot of peer pressure to be queit and not expressive. To be expressive seemed like an instant ticket to being respected less. So I became queit and yes people started respecting me, 180 degrees turn. I noticed the same thing at all 3 jobs I worked in, all in FAANG and similar companies.

On one hand, I like that I am calmer now, but on the other hand, I feel like I have lost a sense of energy.

What is the ideal balance here? Anyone have a similar experience?