Never said it was easy, methodical, or risk-free. With cautious reflection by moving slowly, getting to know their circle of friends and detractors.

Listening skills and having drinks/weed with people tend to loosen lips.

Some you can spot immediately while others take time. Charismatic people tend to be able to conceal themselves longer because they tend to be experts a crafting a public image.

Stop hopping into bed with what are effectively strangers is a good start.....