Gross to see toxic attitudes normalized like this. These folks could all benefit from reading the 15 commitments of conscious leadership https://conscious.is/15-commitments

In particular the bit about taking responsibility for ones circumstances

> I commit to taking full responsibility for the circumstances of my life, and my physical, emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing. I commit to support others to take full responsibility for their lives.

vs

> I commit to blaming others and myself for what is wrong in the world. I commit to being a victim, villain, or a hero and taking more or less than 100% responsibility.