As of 2021, the state with the highest median household income was Maryland with 90K. [1] Being even double the median household income should never be family breaking.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_U.S._states_and_territ...
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_U.S._states_and_territ...
You can argue from your data all you want, but it would 100% lead to divorce.
I’m just giving my personal perspective: I have assumed substantial responsibilities with long term duration and liability. A precipitous drop in income would be cataclysmic.
Move somewhere else indeed! How is that not destroying the life we’ve built so far?
* but not less than $200k, this is a marriage not a charity.