I agree. The SF cut-throat vibe shines through the post. I did like the post though, most people don't seem to be able to make it that far. And I don't think their intent is to be judgmental. There's a lot of work to reintegrate into humanity after being deep in that culture. Accepting "failure" is definitely a first step. Not seeing the world in terms of a single-axis success vs failure might be the next one. And Vietnam sounds like a good choice for escapism, as long as you're not too surrounded by others who are there for the same reason.

Agree with this. Failure is a contested concept.

What is defined as failure for one, is success for another. Failure detection is skewed by "the loudest voice" and "the strongest arm." Morals, ethics, scientific standards, and social hierarchy all fighting for a chance to define and redefine failure. What one person can happily do without question could be the kryptonite for another. Not to mention gender roles.

The weird part, at least for me, is that people are not consistent. What is a failure in one aspect is a success in another; it's not objective. There's almost always a spin. Probably autism a bit but, at least be consistent and honest.